When you are uncertain about something, you ask or you can assume. Some people like to ask out of curiosity and this could be one way to learn something. Some people don’t like to ask because they are guilty of something and by asking, they could expose themselves. Some people just don’t ask because they always think they are right. Some people ask because they want to strike a conversation with you.
THINK OF THE POSSIBLE REASONS WHY THE PERSON IS ASKING YOU THE QUESTION!
Because only you have the answers? Because the person respect or idolize you? Because the person wants to get to know you better? Because your opinion is important to that person? Because that person needs your help?
Assumption is the worst because it could potentially create a chain of unfortunate events. Chain reaction.
When you ask a person something…
1. He may not have the answers for you ..because he really don’t have the answers
2. He may not have the answers for you because he is lazy to think.
3. He refuses to answer because he doesn’t feel the obligation to answer you.
4. He refuses to answer because he thinks you are nonsense. — most guys think this way.
5. He may lie.. because he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
6. He may lie because he feels it’s trivial and he doesn’t want to cause you to question him further – save the trouble.
7. He might tell the truth and you may doubt or believe him.
8. He refuses to answer you because your feelings and concerns are not important to him.
9. He doesn’t like to discuss anything with you.
10. He takes it for granted that you will eventually find out the answers for yourself.
11. Be prepared for the various scenarios.
For the person whom was asked the question..
1. If you avoid answering, the questioner feels that you are hiding something.
2. If you think that the truth hurts, lying hurts the person more when the person finds it out himself.
3. He you just don’t feel like discussing, tell the questioner to ask somebody else. Suggest someone whom you know have the answers.
4. If the questions are directed at you only and only you have the answers and you don’t feel like discussing, explain why you don’t want to discuss.
5. Why don’t you just address the person’s concerns???? Now that the person ASKED, it’s better that he ask than he assumes…
6. If you think that the person is nonsense… then stay away from the person. Don’t mislead them to think that you care.
7. If you don’t know the answer, don’t answer anyhow – don’t assume.
8. If you don’t know the answer, don’t ask someone else in a way that you might reveal who the questioner is. – Respect to the questioner. If he wants to ask the rest he will approach them, don’t need you to convey the message.
9. If you have the answers, make sure you quote the sources.
For those who was never asked the question..
1. I know you can’t read the person’s mind. It’s not your fault.
2. Maybe once in a while you can ask the person if he has any questions for you? Do little evaluations with him.
3. ….. Nothing much you need to/can do yet.